Dear Male Customers,

October 11, 2001

It has come to my attention that many of you think I’m not able to successfully do my job as a Certified Fitness Trainer because of my gender. Well, I have been reticent long enough. Let me set you straight.

It matters not if you refer to me as gal, girl, girlie, dame, broad,Β  hun, honey, dear, sweetie, missy, baby doll, baby girl, shawty or chick. I don’t care what you call me, just don’t refer to me as weak, or the weaker sex, because >this girl< {or chick, or broad, or gal} will make a liar out of you.

I can see it in your eyes when I approach you and ask, “Hi Sir, is there anything I can help you with today?” or say “Let me know if I can help you.” You give me that look that says, “Puhleazzzze. You’re just a girl. What do you know about fitness/exercise/weight lifting/muscles/personal training/XYZ {fill in the blank with whatever else you think I don’t know}. How are YOU going to help ME?” And then your eyes shift around my section looking for the closest male Dick’s employee you can find. Oooh, that guy with the beard? Nope he works in Bikes–doesn’t know about working out. Hey, what aboutΒ  that big guy in the dress shirt? Sorry, that’s the manager and he doesn’t care about working out.Β  Well, how about that tall guy over there? You mean the skinny, lanky one? Hahahaha…he works in Footwear and clearly doesn’t know about hypertrophy.


Yup, looks like you’re stuck with me. And you should be so lucky. No, I’m not a meathead. Yes, I’m a woman. But I’m also a woman that knows her stuff. I know the technical terms and processes that you couldn’t begin to wrap your head around. I know about the whey, the casein, the BCAAs, the nitric oxide, the creatine and the other supps and when to take them, why and what they do and do not do. I know about major weight loss {I’ll show you my before and afters if you don’t believe me} and I also know about muscle growth. So what if I don’t look like this:


I don’t want to!!!!Β  But I know what to do to get there. Seriously, you wanna talk about the SAID principle? I’ll break it all down for you. Tell me your goals; I’ll get you there. That is, if you are a strong enough male to take fitness advice from a chick. Really–go ahead. I’m not just here to hock treadmills, foam rollers and Ab Gliders.

Also, umm, it’s nice and all when you try to help me load up an inversion table, punching bag or weight set on the dolly, but to you I say, “I got this.” ESPECIALLY when you preface the offering of help by saying, “You’re a pretty girl. You shouldn’t be lifting {or can’t lift} that. I’ll get it for you.” Might I suggest some light reading tonight? How about the new ESPN Body Issue: Strong is the New Sexy. As snowboarder Gretchen Bleiler said, “This is not about being sexy but about being strong and powerful and showing girls it’s OK to have muscles. …And that strength and power is beautiful.” Yesssss, thank you. I can be pretty AND pick things up and put them down. Seriously–go get a copy tonight and read every word.

I’m not trying to call you out or anything yes I am, but how are you going to help me carry something to your car when I saw you struggling to lift the 25 pound dumbbells off this rack?


I curl the 25 pounders and then some! And see all these weights? Yeah, I PUT them up there on this rack. Add up all that weight. Yeah, buddy, it’s a lot. Not a single dude helped me do it, either.

Oh–and one more thing–to all of the the portly, married men–I will not come to your house to give you a “personal training, wink, wink” session to “work off, wink wink” your weight while the wife is away. That’s just gross and I can’t believe you asked. Just because I work at Dick’s doesn’t mean you have to be one.

**For all of you gentlemen out there, this letter is not directed toward you at all. I’m just hoping to bring the rest of these jagoffs up to your level. If this sounds like any of your buddies, do me a favor and please forward this letter along and school them.**

In closing, that’s pretty much all I have to say. I feel as though I was quite clear and it’s time for us to come to an understanding. You need to understand that we cannot cohesively carry on as we have been and I’ll understand that it must be odd for you to find such beauty, brains and strength all wrapped up in a pretty brown package. But get over it, because here I am–the one and only–at your service.

Best Regards,

Comments 27

  • Gretchen is my hero, but that might have to do with the fact I am obsessed with snowboarding now! πŸ˜‰ Guys can be such lunks, huh? I don’t get the mentality at all.

    • I’ve never been snowboarding but I had heard of her before. She looks seriously fierce on the cover!! Yesss, definite lunks! I’m like, hey guys, get over yourselves!! πŸ™‚

  • I can’t believe how much ignorance still remains in our daily lives. Stay strong and encouraged because you will likely continue to run into these uninformed men–and women. Your intelligence, abilities and soon-to-be-notoriety will soon win them all over. And when that happens, no one will think of questioning you ever again!

    • I know, STILL in 2011, they look at me like a woman can’t do the job. Crazy. But thank you!! That day is a’comin’!!!! πŸ˜€

  • Ability is always determined by the mindset. People who underestimate anyone based on anything else is as useful to society as a weight loss pill. Much love and keep it up, beautiful.

  • Very well put! But please don’t ever look like that pic, lol.

  • Wooo wooo! You tell em! I was wondering if anyone had given you a hard time at work. You sound so good using all your vocab πŸ™‚ When do you take the NASM test? Colby takes his in November because it is part of his exercise science masters program.

    • My coworkers have finally recognized that I am strong and able. πŸ™‚ The customers are still trying to figure that out, haha… I’m hoping to take it this month. I’m totally not prepared, as I’m still studying for my certification for Dick’s. Studying for two at a time is NOT good…ugh. πŸ™ Good luck to Colby!!

  • This is crazy!!!!! I love it so much I can’t contain myself!!! Aaack, am I embarrassing myself? Sharing sharing SHARING!!!!

    • Haha, I figured you’d be all about this one!! And thank you sharing!!! Yeah, it drove me insane and it was finally time to blog about it!!!

  • I love this!!! Thanks to @Suzanne for tweeting it. I can totally relate! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in the weight room and had some guy try to load the weight plates for me. While I say “thanks but I’m okay” and tell myself they are trying to be nice/polite, it is pretty annoying that just because I’m a GIRL I “can’t” lift weights. πŸ˜›

    • Thanks so much for stopping by Lisa! OMG that would drive me nuts. We are MORE than capable of doing things on our own! I don’t mind the nice ones so much as the ones who completely think I’m a helpless idiot! I’m like, really?!

  • Um, hi? You’re effin’ badass. I LOVE YOU!!!!

    That is all. πŸ™‚

  • Wow, personal training session at home? ! ? Noooooo sir. Show those boys your ring!

    When it comes to health, both men and women will doubt your knowledge. Its just the way life is and most people dont understand science.

    hang in there and act like your tough ole self!

    • Haha, I show them my ring…it’s beaming! But they don’t care. Some see it and still continue on–gross! I don’t mind women doubting my knowledge, but some of these men–it’s just ridiculous. I’m like, get over yourselves! I’m definitely hanging–it was just time to vent and blog about it, haha!!

  • You go girl!!! Beyonce’s girls who run the world popped into my head reading this post. I hate the guys who give me the eyes or say something to me on my lunch break or when im doing a work errand…hello im working..not in a bar…not in a club..leave me alone!! I can relate! I wish we lived closer to each other so you could train me to lift 25+ free weights!!

  • “Just because I work at Dick’s doesn’t mean you have to be one.” – haha that is golden, you need that on your shirt you wear to work πŸ™‚

  • O’m’gosh yes! I feel this way every time I walk into GNC or up to the free weight rack at the gym.
    Just because my biceps don’t look like I’m smuggling tennis balls doesn’t mean I’m a weak little girl! Gahhh!
    And holy smokes, curling 25lbs is awesomely intense.